Alongside a fundamental human need for food, water and sleep is the requirement to procreate. Nature, with cunning precision, laden all human beings with the condition of hunger, thirst, fatigue and sex drive. As Nature would have it, males are predisposed with a biological inclination to engage in the endless pursuit of procreation – this is known as male libido and is a phenomenon observed in humans and animals alike. However, over the course of time, human civilization spun off from the majority of the animal kingdom and determined that limited sexual interaction was a more suitable arrangement for the human species. Too much sex can be destructive to humans bringing disease, disorders, sexual aggression, unwanted pregnancy, envy and sometimes violence while more selective sexual interactions encourage intimacy, commitment, responsibility and the most stable, advantageous arrangement for rearing offspring. All advanced societies have established rules and rituals (legal, social and religious) to steer their population toward sexual norms that have proven superior for human beings over the course of time.
Then comes the Sexual Revolution declaring to society that no form of union or relationship, or lack thereof, is superior than any other and that women should not only seek but demand equality in promiscuity on par with the fantasies of men. (For these intellectuals, marriage is an obsolete institution reserved for boring Puritans). This call to action by the liberation leads to expansion in contraception and sex toys markets, increased abortion on demand, pornography touching roughly 65% of the adult male population, divorce rates skyrocketing and broken homes becoming commonplace. And to keep the momentum, our young adults have adapted to a sexually loose environment known as the “hookup culture.”
Understanding that males and females on average have different needs regarding sex; single men are generally more eager and less selective about their partners while females have traditionally associated sexual encounters with love and relationship driving the anxious males to courtship and commitment in order to acquire a sexual experience. Traditionally, a high premium was placed on a chaste female requiring an interested suitor not only to engage in the rituals of courtship but potentially proposal of marriage. Socially speaking, the default setting for premarital sex for females was “no.” Women could choose to opt out but it was entirely their choice. By placing the social norm at an assumed “no,” the female didn’t have to justify her decision not to engage in sex, her individual decision to restrain was supported by collective social values. Enter the Sexual Revolution with its equal-sex-for-all campaign, which, as part of its mantra, virulently chastised chivalry and punished traditionalist values in the name of “liberating women”. What this campaign birthed was the “hookup culture.” Newly “empowered” college-age girls are inclined to “pre-game” or, get sufficiently inebriated before parading themselves sparsely dressed into parties where they continue to inebriate themselves in the name of “having fun” all the while also undermining their natural inhibitions of personal propriety against having sex with any random male who shows an interest. Thanks to the liberalization of sex, the social default for women is now set at “yes.” Now the young lady must make her case for why she doesn’t want to engage in intercourse. An inebriated women trying to explain to an anxious young man with whom she has been flirting, why she doesn’t want to have sex is a Herculean task at best and, it is reported that many young ladies find it simply easier to engage in the encounter than to argue.
Our American culture has chosen to expose children to sex and sex education at increasingly earlier ages of development. The push to encourage sexual interaction with no commitment becomes ever stronger and is arguably the social norm today. America has produced the most sexualized generation in human history. The secularization of our culture leaves little defense for chastity, marriage, even cultural pressure to maintain the default status of family at “intact.” Shall we congratulate ourselves for this accomplishment? If not, what should we do? What we may not do is blame this entire debacle on male libido.
The brilliance of this analysis of modern history, for this essay, comes from the following sources:
Eberstadt, Mary. Adam and Eve after the Pill, Ignatius Press, 2012
MacDonald, Heather. The Diversity Delusion,St. Martins Press, 2018